Is wanting a love like that so bad?

Comments from readers - theirs in black, my answers/comments/reply in red.

Read a bit & find your openness refreshing… 
thanks =)  in my blog I do feel that I can and should keep it as open as possible.  I think ANR is a wonderful thing and hate having to keep it so hush-hush.  We have women now allowed in combat, gay marriage, gays allowed openly in the military and yet loving relationships such as these are still a big no-no even when they bring peace, love and harmony to a relationship and often prevents infidelities, fights, etc…
 

It is a horrible joke that the desire is so difficult to get at, so deep into a relationship & not casual that I often ponder if it can happen.   

I have to believe it will happen for me.  If I don’t I’ll die… honestly, I may just die… eventually, I mean, with a crushed spirit, with a broken heart, alone and lonely.  I cannot, will not, refuse to have a relationship anymore that doesn’t include this one thing I desire most.

Some women have dated/married a man of a specific profession, or a man with children from a previous marriage, and the relationship soured, those women may say to themselves and others, “never again” and they are validated by both peers and society.  Yet mention that ANR is a requirement and people look at you as a pariah, a deviant, perverse, derelict, etc...  I could continue nearly incessantly.

I just want to be loved… in my own way. In a way that is of my choosing, can offer health benefits even if they are minuscule, is mutually pleasing, and that strengthens the relationship instead of tearing it down.

I believe that when a person says "I love you" they should be willing to show it, to prove it. For me, if they honestly love me, they will commit to me and to have a relationship that includes ANR as much as it includes faithfulness, humor, communication, etc...

I believe if they truly love me, they will do ANR with me.

Is wanting a love like that so bad?